I really love today’s Ten on Tuesday topic – ten things I love about my family.
These are in no particular order…
1. Laughter. We do a lot of this and its beautiful. And we can make a funny story out of the worst of times…
2. Blended. We have added two spouses (four if you count Loon & Susan’s hubbies) and all have been great additions. I tend to think of them as “old shoes,” you know – comfortable, that fit right in. (Not the most glamorous description but I hope it’s understood as the compliment it is meant to be.)
3. Close. It confuses lots of people that Loon and Susan, though they are our cousins, feel more like sisters and we refer to their children as our nieces and nephews, ’cause that’s how we love them. It also weirds people out that I refer to Jen as my sister instead of as my SIL. No law is required. She was a cool addition and is now simply one of us. 🙂 Distance also does not matter… we may be spread half way across the country but we keep in touch (the blog helps!) each in our own way.
4. Loyal/protective. The one story that stands out in my mind goes back more than a decade… I never really thought of my big brother as the “protective type,” but when my car was stolen and I showed up at his office in tears after the car was “repaired” to borrow his club (remember them?!), he was so sweet. He offered to buy me a new car – that day, and he was serious. And while this was something neither of us could actually afford, and something we didn’t do, it still means a great deal to me that he tried so hard in that moment to take care of me. (This wasn’t an isolated incident, btw, just a good example.)
5. Fun. We have lots of it. And I like to think we are welcoming and a joy to be around (most of the time anyway). For sure, we aren’t dull!
6. Discussion/debate. My father used to say, “Why let the facts get in the way of a good story?” If you couldn’t hold your own at the Heffern family dinner table you didn’t last long. And if everyone came to agreement too quickly, you can bet someone would take an extreme contrarian viewpoint just to keep conversation going. So much fun.
7. Intellect. This goes hand in hand with no. 6. We are a family of curious minds, useless/random facts, and book worms. I find that neat. We challenge each other and sharpen each other.
8. Low maintenance. I love that our family of five shared one bathroom growing up. Perhaps this is why both Sarah and I would have to add 20 minutes to our morning routine to hit a half-hour! And Jen fits right in here too 🙂 [remember, old shoe] This continues to be true as we pile five or six more people into Brian & Jen’s house at Christmas to enjoy family time!
9. Predictable. This is not always a prized trait but there is something comfortable in familiarity. We like horse racing. We’ll be in Saratoga in August. We like the beach. We love hockey. Dad rinsed dishes, Mom just stuffed them in the machine – they’d “discuss” it every night after dinner. Good times. 🙂
10. Celebrations. Hefferns like to party, and the holiday / occasion starts whenever and wherever we gather. Early Thanksgiving has become a thing for us – its cheaper to fly and a lot less hassle making it more fun. We have family picnics in June or July and gather up as many of us from across our six states + DC as possible. We fly to Chicago for birthdays… whatever it takes. And the food that accompanies our celebrations is delish (tenderloins on the grill, cakes/cookies/and pies, some Little Venice for good measure, etc.)
Writing this makes me want to hop a plane to Virginia… love you guys!