Family Plans

It’s not Three Beautiful Things, but we think its better.

It is no big secret that Chris and I have been trying to grow our family for a loooong time. Well, we have taken a quantum leap forward in the last few weeks. We have submitted our application to foster to adopt through [a local agency] and Texas Child Protective Services. We are currently taking our PRIDE (Parent Resource for Information, Development, & Education) classes and hope to start our home study next month, which means we could have kiddos in the house by the end of the summer!

If there is one thing I have learned throughout our struggles the last few years in this area, it is that there is some virtue in the intentionality that both infertility and foster/adoption puts you through. For as much as we wanted to be pregnant, we want to be parents so much more. And the 101 questions you are asked in this process really make you think, plan, challenge your assumptions, and prepare to be parents (as much as anyone can prepare).

There are so many more “options” when you foster or adopt too – do we prefer boys or girls; do we prefer infants, toddlers, littles or bigs; are we open to other races/ethnicities?  The list seems endless.  But the coolest part is that we are open to pretty much anything.  And because we hope to do this more than once, if we don’t get the “bring a baby home from the hospital” experience with the first one, we’ll have other opportunities.

We are so excited!!!  There are so many children in this world who need love and care – we decided fostering to adopt seemed like the place where we could make the biggest difference. As exciting as it might be to start an Angelina Jolie League of Nations family, we can do that right here in Houston for kids who are waiting for someone to come along and care.  We want to be those parents.

We’ll keep you posted.

17 thoughts on “Family Plans

  1. Mom May 18, 2009 / 10:49 pm


  2. Mom May 19, 2009 / 7:09 am

    AND ….. TODAY IS……the 35th birthday of the author of this exciting post! HAPPY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, Eileen 🙂

  3. sprite May 19, 2009 / 9:03 am

    Congratulations, Eileen. Both on the milestone birthday and on being open to building a family in a less traditional fashion. People like you and Chris rock.

  4. Common Loon May 19, 2009 / 11:20 am

    I hope your machine got their message…it kicked us off once (probably due to someone being a “little” overzealous). And you do know that the email was supposed to be a joke, right???????

    Happy Birthday, Eileen! We’ll keep praying for all to go smoothly and quickly, and that the ones you’re meant to have arrive soon. Hope that you guys are the one to break with this generation’s trend (in our family) of being limited to a single gender!!! Should I also hope you are the ones to end up with the biggest flock????

  5. Sionna May 19, 2009 / 1:57 pm

    Happy Birthday Eileen! And a thousands times GOOD LUCK! I can’t wait to hear some good news.

    YOu said it…there are so many children who need good homes and you and Chris will be the best!


  6. Sarah May 19, 2009 / 2:13 pm

    Ah, so exciting! I’m really looking forward to extending my aunt-ing to more nieces/nephews.

    Happy birthday, sis… Hope it’s swell!

  7. susan May 19, 2009 / 4:49 pm

    Happy Birthday…do you want to be spared th new “jazz version” the girls favor of the traditional song? We’ve already messed up Minnesota…though I guess my girls don’t have quite the influence on you and Chris as they do on short people.

    Looking forward to good news to be shared…I am happy for your decision to help those who need it :-)!

  8. susan May 19, 2009 / 7:54 pm

    Hijack alert 🙂
    Meghan donated her hair to locks of love tonight. She looks SO MUCH OLDER!!!! Ten and a half inches!! 🙂

  9. Sarah May 19, 2009 / 11:33 pm

    Hey, Susan, that’s so great — very generous of her. How does she like the new cut? And how short? Like a bob, or short like we had our hair when we were Meg’s age?

  10. Joanne May 20, 2009 / 6:10 am

    Eileen, what a wonderful decision! Good luck with process, and I hope the time flies for you! And, happy belated birthday!

    And Mom, your first two posts crack me up. My mom is the same–all about the grandkids first and foremost, then she gets to me. 😉

  11. susan May 20, 2009 / 6:20 am

    @Sarah- It just touches her shoulders…but the lady who did it straightened it…so after tonight’s shower we’ll REALLY know how long (or short) it is. She LOVES it…partly because everyone who has seen it has said she looks like a middle schooler now.

  12. Mom May 20, 2009 / 7:16 am

    @ Joanne — My first post was the day before her birthday; the second on HER actual day 🙂 But, you know what your Mom means — if it weren’t for our #1s, we wouldn’t have the GRANDS!!!

  13. Mom May 20, 2009 / 7:18 am

    @ Meghan — WAY TO GO, GIRL!!! Someone is oh so going to appreciate your generous gift. Send me a pic of your new look. Hugs! 🙂

  14. Common Loon May 20, 2009 / 7:56 am

    @Susan: Uh, Sue, hate to break it to you, but she’s looked like a middle-schooler for a bit now (at least to us). Much like her cousin has looked like a 1st-grade for awhile. Please do send a picture!

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